I cheated on my husband and broke his heart reddit. I've been so depressed since all this happened.

I cheated on my husband and broke his heart reddit I’ve been giving it my all to see if it is possible to reconcíliate with my husband. The only reason i speak to my mother is cuz she lives here and usually its just hi and fake i love yous. twice. This weekend I decieded to break up with him because I thought it would be best for us. When I finished, I started to beg him not to leave me. But he won't tell me, he just shuts me out. Just wanted to give some insight. They married young (21) and he felt so guilty afterwards it torpedoed their sex life. You never told your husband what you needed from him before you cheated. She decided she wanted a divorce a couple of months later even though I You opted to betray your partners trust and sexual health rather than communicate. An anonymous woman posted on Reddit with the title: “I cheated on my husband with one of his friends and now I don’t know what to do, I want him back my life is terrible without him. As uncomfortable as it was especially on his side. He cheated on me with two different women. Now, here's where I need your help, Reddit. Four month ago I came clean to my husband about me having an affair with a Co-worker. Brother my WW was meeting up with her affair partner (a cop) between the store and our house, in a back parking lot, for 10 minute quickies. You can’t sit in it but it’s hard af to get out of. I destroyed our marriage in one reckless moment. Broke my trust and took the security blanket I had right from under me. My husband didn’t cheat but he was a shit father and husband for a lot of years. He had been drinking, and sat in his car to avoid my mother. I pushed my husband away. He told me he was the only one who was allowed to get in my head. He saw my husband's sister(the same girl who got raped) and told me she's hot and if I can bring her around. I told him that I did sleep with them. And you didn't do anything to cause it. Somewhere along the way, things got stale, as they do after you have kids, get comfortable in your roles with each other, etc. I need help deciphering the evidence I have discovered. My husband cheated so I told everyone He has nothing right now and definitely doesn't care. I have never cheated on someone since, and I've been honest about my past when asked. We have a 3yo I'd tell your family, her family, the friends of both of you, and the spouse of her affair partner, that she cheated for several reasons. But I know in the back of my head I don’t want to leave my live in boyfriend because he supports me. I have to win him back. I would have honestly traded him having a one night stand for the man he should have been to me and our children. He wasn't that sweet, caring, ride-or-die bf anymore. When I didn’t say anything he said “Don’t insult my intelligence by lying to my face. I don't say this to excuse my behavior or condone your wife's. I am extremely paranoid that my husband is going to leave me so I always try to be the most loving and supportive wife that ever existed, but I'm not very successful and it terrifies me. one of the last thing he told me "trust no man who works all day. I do absolutely regret it because I hurt my ex-husband and what I did is morally WRONG. He became abusive and eventually I lost the baby I never got off from it. After the incident, he had been on his best behaviour for four days and finally wanted to My ex boyfriend moved on with the girl he cheated with So my ex (19M) cheated on me around Christmas/New Years with another girl (20F) and they were “together” while we were. In this staleness, my husband became married to his work. I buried myself in work in hopes that I would someday make enough money to get away from my husband. I found out today he revenge cheated, probably more than once. That was evidence (infidelity), he destroyed evidence. He doesn’t give second chances. He felt beaten, belittled, worthless and shamed by YOUR actions so he decided to I cheated on my husband and i feel like i ruined my life i was blacked out drunk visiting a friend after having a big fight with my husband and left our place even though i love him so much my friend went to sleep and suddenly i decided to meet a guy on an app and have sex with him but i do not know what i was thinking in the moment and i did it i left and i had sex with him and i felt My boyfriend posted about his feelings on the situation to reddit sometime back when he first heard about what happened. Probably for the past year relations with my husband "Joe" have been good but lacking excitement. Believe me if a person wants to cheat they will find the time to do it. I love my husband. You cheated on your husband because you wanted to. I went into the basement looking for something to end my life with. Earlier in the year I had started a new job (service industry for perspective) and right after I started, my relationship with my partner got kind of rocky and things started going downhill. Last weekend I came home to my husband throwing all of my stuff out of the bedroom and trying to kick me out of the house. I found the videos/pics in his snapchat. - The name you have for the affair partner may not actually be who the real affair partner was. My sister’s boyfriend cheated on his first gf and he had a great childhood from what I’ve heard, but his mom cheated on his dad so probably somewhere subconsciously he thought it was normal behaviour but he has learnt to be a better partner I attempted to bury this from my boyfriend since I knew how much it would hurt him. How do I cope? When you made the decision to cheat (and cheat repeatedly, over an 8 month period), you broke your wedding vows, and any rights that went along with them. Yes, I was beginning a second affair. He brought up his rule about cheaters then. Now I'm questioning absolutely everything. This set in motion 5 people blaming themselves and one killing themselves. Broke words that were (presumably) spoken amongst witnesses. We met about 3 years later. I made it about myself and turned into myself. He's amazing. So me (31f) and my husband (32m) have been married for 13 years we have a son (3m), i love him so much. The first girl was a stranger he just met when he was out one night. Your wife's AP would be a ghost if it weren't for your The thing he cheated with and her husband handled it differently the put a bandaid over the crack and never faced the hard truths resulting in her having a tracker on her phone and is never allowed out of her husband sight. About a week ago, a man showed up at my door and when I opened he was confused then apologized for mixing the days up. You will most likely do it Earlier in the year I had started a new job (service industry for perspective) and right after I started, my relationship with my partner got kind of rocky and things started going downhill. You don't have reddit commentroversy. But it's really not. Don’t give a damn who you are if you’re a cheater I’m exposing you cause that shit aint okay! If you consider her your friend, it is code you tell her imo. I'm humiliated because everyone knows and I'm terrified that our 17 year-old will see them. ”. I cheated on my husband not once, but twice. He’s great now but it’s still hard for me. She had an affair, she cheated on you and kept cheating on you for a month. Thanks to his sister because she understand my part. He’d respect my name, my body, and me. Now for the person I cheated on my partner of 3 years with. Killing yourself would be. If you care about him at all, you will respect his wishes and wait, without pushing him, for him to decide whether he sees a future with you. " Rules reminder: r/survivinginfidelity is a support sub! Please read the rules and guidelines in our sub wiki before commenting. The ex who broke my heart was my first really serious boyfriend. He was soliciting and getting rejected. Originally posted to r/relationship_advice & r/Marriage. A common friend told me she spotted him in a car with a woman she didn't recognize and this felt like a stab in the heart. We only met 3 times, but emailed regularly, up until the point where everything came out 2 weeks ago. I cheated on my husband, he caught us, and for the past seven Immediately after it happened I confessed to my partner. I agree with your son, who's pretty sharp by the way. He is an absolute angel and I am completely in love with him but I did not know why I did what i did. I don't know if this community is the right place to share. I am ashamed and disgusted with myself because of my past. there's no such job. My BF had an Ex that cheated on him before we met and he had some trust issues in the beginning of our relationship, but he tried really hard with me to get over that hump and we grew so much closer after doing so. My husband wasn’t always good to me. I vowed to myself that I would NEVER cheat again. My (29f) husband (32m) found porn I had been watching on my With time, he was cold and hurtful to me. My late husband told me that he cheated on his first wife. I've been through so many heart breaks before getting married, that couldn't trust no man. They were always in pieces. I never cheated on my ex husband, or even considered it, even after he cheated on me. Phones would face the same fate should my suspicions rise. I didn’t confess straight into the conversation. He says I will be stooping to their level if I go public about them cheating but this has broken my heart as well as our marriage and I'm just getting more and more angry. We were at my step-father's mom's house, my "grandma's" (She passed away 4 years ago). The next girl I met later ended up becoming my wife (we broke up after 2 years, didn’t talk for 5, and the got back together). I met him at a party, and for the first time in a long time, I felt alive and my heart was fluttering again. You broke things by disregarding his consent and autonomy. He never had hurt me before, I thought we were amazing. My husband is gonna die to get back at me. I'll take your advices on blocking his family. He was having enough problems but you just had to obliterate whatever self-esteem he had left didn't you. Sometimes love isn’t enough. My son wants me to just end things with her and not blow this up. He's from ME and I'm from Europe. I cheated on my ex-bf 3 years ago. My life now, years later, is more amazing than I ever thought it could be and I do fully trust my husband. But the only thing I want is my boyfriend back. I was in an internal struggle about whether to divorce my husband or stay with him, since he knew nothing about it. I still didn’t want to believe it but I wanted to see more. I understand his decision completely, as trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and I broke it in the worst possible way. I hadn't cheated, he was just growing dissatisfied, and then he ran into his high school sweetheart and it really made him want out. You cheated. My husband still tries to bring up my “cheating”, and is still neglectful and abusive. You are a lier and a cheater. You cheated, broke his heart and his family. Long story short (but happy to elaborate if anyone wants more info), I cheated on him. It changed my entire viewpoint, and I will NEVER do it again. One of my exes cheated on me, but the rest left because I was an awful partner. You I (34f) found out my husband (32m) cheated and lied about it for 7 years. Not only did I break his trust of me, but I'm finding myself not trusting him for fear that he'll break my heart by cheating on me. When I confessed to my boyfriend, hoping we could heal from this, he was understandably devastated and chose to end our relationship. I caught my former partner attempting to cheat. (28M) just found out that my We all sacrifice our own happiness for our children. I shattered his trust, and I don't know if I'll ever be able to piece it back together. Your marriage ended when you had an affair. I needed my mother and she was too busy Here's the thing, my i managed to finish my work as early as possible because i really wanted to go. A huge fight broke down between my mom and my step-father and he was pretty down. I can't let this be the end of our love story. I wallowed instead of trying to fix things. I've become an object he can use at his whim. then took my phone, the internet box and the car and left I cheated on my husband with someone he knows well, a close friend. beat the hell out of me. Also- when i cheated on my husband- the anger and disgust i felt for myself send me into a very dark depression. That man “accidentally” ran over or otherwise destroyed 4 lap tops, 3 cell phones and a tablet. When I asked him "do you still want to be with me?" He said "I don't think so. He started cheating on me while I was pregnant because I didn’t feel like having sex due to pregnancy symptoms. He took me back. When we ever did something right, it's him. It felt like my heart was in my stomach. Original post by u/Large-Photograph9401 in r/SupportforWaywards trigger warnings: cheating, panic attacks, and self- harm Possible ending: bad for OPP but hopeful for the husband of OPP. Or maybe just leave me since I told. You broke his heart and his trust he can’t see you the same way as he did before. OOP confirms he cheated on his ex-wife with his current wife: My ex-wife found out about me sleeping with my current wife. This is an opportunity for her to become a better person. But he never gave me his heart, or his full cooperation, or his full attention after that. , why would i cheat on him,, i don't know i cheated on him with my coworker from 2021-2024 (3 years) until he found out because his sister saw me and my coworker kissing in a car and confronted me then told my husband. Me(40F) and my husband(39M) married young and were each other’s first. I wish you true love and happiness until the end of time. However he was abusive. I immediately (and when I say it im not joking) found a rebound and started having fun. We’d get to know each other for a few months. Reply reply [deleted] • Yes, right now, all I can think about is myself and how it's affecting me. Yup I’m sorry but you 100% broke his heart and trust. cheating requires secrecy and fantasy, and you can kill it with exposure. My own mother broke my heart and i have issues trusting other women. I promised him everything, he can have my passwords, my location shared, I go to more therapy, I go to therapy together with him. I am NOT OPP. Me and my husband are married for a long time and have a ten year old son together. I ended it because I knew it was wrong, and I confessed to my boyfriend, hoping we could work through it. Btw, my dads mom also became a lifelong alcoholic. Don’t be too hard on yourself but grow from it! Be a better man, be an honest man, being an honest man is so important to me that I can’t even see myself cheating ever I love my husband, but I ended up having an affair a few months ago. He's devastated, and I can't blame him. And no love expressions coming Recently, my husband and I were talking about everything in going on and sex was brought up and he broke down crying and apologized saying that the last few years have been stressful for him, that he'd secretly been battling depression (I had no idea) and felt ashamed of himself for not being able to satisfy me so he never tried. it's like he had his heart broken twice within the same conversation and he What I'm about to admit breaks my heart everyday. It's 7 upmods 6 downmods as of right now. We were together for about one and a half year. The man I married cheated on me and broke my heart and I’m the absolute piece of trash? I devoted all of my time to this man and I’ve bought him a new car and I’ve never ever suspected him of cheating. that's a lot to deal with. EDIT: i feel people are really missing the point (maybe because I included the part about OUR pastor--my husband picked the church--I would delete that but it's all over comments so no point now). I The thought of breaking his heart broke mine because he was a wonderful person with an amazing personality, it’s just whenever you grow up a bit sometimes you grow apart. TRIGGER WARNING: infidelity, emotional manipulation, retaliation I (30F) cheated on my husband (27M) he's taking it well but I feel he resents me Feb 25, 2024. He was browsing through my phone to find a mutual contact’s phone number while I was in the shower. And i let my self-hatred over run everything. From what you've posted, I wouldn't blame you in the least for doubting him right now. He said that he has these angry, raging moments not only because of the hatred of what I had done, but also because he has these images in his head of what I had done, he cant You can’t fix a marriage you broke by “making up to him” after cheating! It’s not possible, you broke something in his heart and he did try to move on from it but it didn’t work. He broke up with her when it happened, but she wanted him back and while he did forgive her, he thought she hadn't changed. I looked up the other woman and viewed her profile. We got back together, and I'm struggling to cope with the aftermath and the fact that I wasn't his first. it was the cliche, corny love story. I've been in your shoes (except my now ex husband got the girl pregnant) and I've been so depressed since all this happened. I want so badly not to hurt him, but we have no secrets so this is a big thing to harbor. If your heart decides it wants to fall for someone, its going to happen Reply reply This. The guilt is overwhelming, and I wish I could take back what I did. You keep saying it was just words but words can cut just like a knife. I feel like I recovered for the most part but "recovery" really has a lot of ups and downs. Looking for advice on how to heal and rebuild. It's been hard for him. OP, you want to give your husband what he needs only after your AP broke it off with you after 3 months of cheating. You could My husband cheated on me and the affair partner called me so I could hear he was cheating on me with her. I felt like crap because I knew I broke his heart but the freedom of finding a person who was so much like me was incredible. I asked her who he was and she said he was just a friend. He believed he married a ln honorable, loving, and supportive woman. I broke up with my current wife for my ex-wife so we could work things out. TLDR; I cheated on my husband with a friend and I regret it so much. Shortly thereafter my husband stopped having sex with me. my father died in the hospital from cancer. After having argued with my husband before hand and feeling slightly tipsy, I kissed my co-worker back and long story short, I ended up spending the night at his place. We have been advised during CC to separate temporarily but never pulled the trigger. I found some poison, I was taking it out of the cabinet when my dog came over and jumped on me. We have two children(19F,18M) and both of them have moved out and are living their life. My God, I hope from the bottom of my heart that one day your husband realizes that you are for the streets and that you are not worth the effort he made or the pain he has been feeling since your stupid choice, because yourself wrote that he still thinks about it and believe me; This will hurt him until the end of his days. I know I did something awful and disgusting, and when I couldn't take the guilt anymore I cut off my affair partner and confessed everything to my husband. I want him to get a vasectomy. I’m a loyal and faithful person. It came to a head when my mom cheated on the dad on my youngest sister, the guy she had cheated on my With time, he was cold and hurtful to me. Once, I was with a man who wanted to leave me. ” I went on to tell him everything like I mentioned above, crying the entire time. After all, what better way to keep the cheated on spouse from contacting the affair partner than making her some "high level executive" that is impossible to contact. I honestly with all my heart wish you to find true love and an honest loving caring amazing relationship with the one who will be there for you just as much as you are for them for the rest of your lives. It has now been 9 months since I moved back in and every day is a struggle. For the record, you didn't make a "mistake". . Or check it out in the app stores We grew up together! And knowing he felt he needed to lie to me and also that he prefers to get off without me broke my heart. There's no way I can say how wonderful my husband is -- he is the most caring, loving, sweet man in I, 45F have recently discovered my husband 40M may potentially be cheating on me. I just want to kill myself, and what broke my heart the most, is when I told my husbanded that I want to kill myself and he said "go ahead, sonia (our daughter) and I will be better off without a cheating whore like you" I just want to die, I'm sick of how guilty I'm feeling. I know it's irrational because he's assured me he's not going to, My husband (36M) and I (36F) have been together for 16 years and married for 14. I have my hair still, I haven't lost my sense of humor, I still work hard make good money and take care of our kids. He says it feels like I’ve been cheating this whole time. He felt the same and we got A few years ago I had some medical problems that caused me to no longer be able to have anymore children. I feel like less guilty about what happened. I learned from it, and that was my one and only cheating incident in my whole life. I broke it off with my Ex soon after, a primary reason for that was I was showing him pictures of my wedding. We are both 34. and went through a bit of a stale patch. But, I never dealt with my trauma. However I'd be lying if i said I cared or had any ill will towards him. She said she couldn't describe her exactly because she wore big sunglasses, but she recognized my husband because of his particular taste in neckties. He didn't seem to care much about the relationship. He’s still crushed inside. I'm planning to finish my internship and go on a vacation. The man he had to have left him! Unfortunately, Karo hasn't received his end of the karma and is still just as fucking perfect as the day i found out he was having an affair with my husband. I want to make amends and show him that I am truly sorry for what I've done. My wife took over and and she went back to the guys car and they talked for 5 minutes and he drove away. Now your betrayal is his heart break. My heart broke because I had She wouldn't answer and began to cry. My mom almost killing herself(she told me she was trying to kill herself by drinking herself to death). My worst fear is my daughter finding out. I literally cheated on my ex with a girl I met at a bar one night because I was an inconsiderate ass who convinced myself that it was only wrong if hurt her, so I could do it and keep it to myself. He said I needed to tell my husband as part of my penance. He was neglectful, belittles me, hits me, just plain evil. So I listened to two people that knew the right things to say and do. Anyway, I cheated on him and I've never felt so bad and heartbroken because I broke his heart and trust in me. Because if he's going to be with someone else, he's no longer with me. Recently he said he wanted to change and if I’m willing to help him so I said yes. I think I've done my part of being his girlfriend. And then when he found out, his world fell around him and I did too. literally jumped me. That broke me he promise he was getting better. We have a 3yo If my husband respects me as his partner and the mother of his children, he needs to tell me when he's done. If he can't trust you when you make promises in front of friends and You likely lobotomized his heart, and he's an emotional zombie at the moment. We have been married for nearly 18 years. You opted to do this multiple times. We broke up and after that, he’s been begging to get back with me and make it work. You would think it was my ex-husband that broke my heart. He knows everything. I really love and appreciate my partner but at the same time when it happened I My husband (m23) and I (f24) have been married for almost 2 years. Original Post. hate my job, hate my career, my once beloved pets are just a chore, my comfortable home is a burden and I have an absolutely hopeless outlook in life. The guilt that you felt was your burden to carry and it was selfish of you to unburden yourself by confessing to him. He is protecting his crushed heart from you by not giving you the slightest opening into it. My husband wants to go to counseling and stay together but I don't think I can do that. About 3 months ago, I cheated on him with my coworker once TL;DR : cheated on the best boyfriend in the world and cannot live without him. she aint regret it one bit never accept a cheating woman back On Friday, I (26F) caught my husband (32M) with his coworker, in our bedroom. Just because it’s the 1rst time does not mean that it isn’t going to become a new pattern of behavior and it’s definitely something you need to think of. He looked through my pictures and saw photos of me kissing other men (my exes and some other friends of mine). I moved across the country (not just because of him, but that was certainly a big motivator). I know he didn't do the actual deed but the sheer fact that he would have if given the opportunity, broke my heart. My husband of over 25 years was cheated on by his first wife. Cheated so many times on me with other females. I slapped him and ended things. I spent the weekend at his house a week ago and he was rude almost the whole time. He was deeply hurt by my actions and decided to end our relationship. " It broke my heart and I knew I had lost him forever. We broke up and I immediately started so look to men for validation; was in an emotionally abusive relationship (which is the guy I cheated on my partner of 3 years with I just don’t trust that you wouldn’t break his heart Rules reminder: r/survivinginfidelity is a support sub! Please read the rules and guidelines in our sub wiki before commenting. I didnt break up with him the best way I could. She said that she Leaving her for cheating is not an over reaction. My husband and I have been married for three years and have a two year old son. I now have my own home and job and my partner knows I will walk away at anytime. My heart felt like it had been ripped out of my chest and I’m the piece of trash? A few weeks ago I got a random message from an old friend of his. His affair will always be incredibly traumatizing for me, and changed me forever. I still broke up with him bcs he did not deserve what i did with him. Don’t get me wrong, cheating is despicable — I’ve never forgiven partners who have cheated and certainly think OP was in the wrong. I was fired from 3 jobs. Tell her that we should not allow the mistakes of our past to determine our future. I don't know about postpartum depression and I recommend seeking professional advice. My (29f) husband (32m) found porn I had been watching on my sounds like you where just using him, and didn't really appreciate him and betrayed him in the worst way, if you truly loved him you wouldn't have cheated on him and ruined everything, i bet there were a lot of incidents that led to the cheating and you made a lot of selfish choices, did you ever think about him or how much you loved him as you Point being, my dad cheated on my mom, my mom told him she wanted a divorce, and my dad killed himself the next day. I met my boyfriend in the homeless scene. This affair lasted about two months, and I ended it realizing the harm I was causing. My ex husband never returned from a deployment with a functioning laptop. to admit to everything themselves and put the leg work into repairing what they broke. Fast forward to midsommar 2021. I cant love her and all of this has now fallen into my relationship issues. I've been drowning in guilt, replaying the moment I told him over and over again in my head. I (30F) cheated on my husband (27M), and now I suspect he's seeing another woman. I feel conflicted because I have feelings for I finally came clean to my husband, and the look on his face broke me. He will admits he is a bully and gets off on it. This April my wife told me she wasn't sexually attracted to me anymore and all intimacy has stopped. I saw about this community in r/asoneafterinfidelity and redirected here. Mentioning that my husband is with another woman. I was sent screenshots and I just couldn’t believe it. Abuse, shaming, sexism, and encouraging violence/revenge are not tolerated here. When I found this out, I immediately considered divorcing my husband and maybe moving in with my co-worker since he was the father. I cheated on my boyfriend (22M) of one year with another man (30M) I met at an event. It took a few minutes but I realized I did not want to leave I've been in a similar situation. I was paranoid one night a guy would find out and kill her and us. when i got back home my husband was in his The other boy wants to forgive me. We broke up, and during that time, he lost his virginity to someone else. D Day July 2022. l used to see him at our local coffee shop but never really gave him much attention. I finished all my work in 5 hours and decided to give Sarah, John and Aria a surprise lol. Not saying your wife has been cheating on you, but you need to lose your preconceived notions about what cheaters are capable of. It just came to my attention that my husband has been cheating on me on and off for 2 years. In that time, I had to start getting rides to and from work. We were together 7 years16-23. They had a fairly friendly divorce (no kids), and he was single for a decade after—he did date but no one serious enough to move in. Good God why didn't you just leave him before you destroyed him. I've been trying to get into r/survivingmyinfidelity but that community doesn't exists. I wanted out of my marriage by any means necessary. But I cheated on her with her best friend. I've been in a similar situation. I need help to get over my feelings for this guy as I am not sure how to get over it. I (28F) cheated because I thought my husband (33M) cheated - he has left the house and has not said a single word to me. My brother cheated on his ex and 5 minutes after he told me I was on the phone with chick. Okay, listen. I actually kept a list of red flags for each person I dated. It changed me a lot. I loved my husband and I still care about him — I wouldn’t have married him if Broke up with her and never cheated again. (30F) cheated on my husband (27M), and now I suspect he's seeing another woman He started letting me know that he still loves me with all his heart and that he loves our children but he has a hard time forgetting and moving on from what happened. I totally get that and deserve it. My husband found an email account of mine, in which he read messages with another man I had just met - though we had not had sex yet. I don’t know how these things work since I wont be buying in but this is for him to fix. UPDATE: My [42F] best friend [42F] told my husband [44M] I cheated, he's leaving [Original post] I'm a hypocrite. I probably needed the adrenaline rush but I realized it wasn't worth it. I broke up with him but now I am I broke his heart [new] So I [M, 24] broke up with my bf [23] few days ago. I've just received news that my best friend has been sleeping over at his condo. My husband was trying to damage control but when I told him I knew he said he had sex with the waitress. We dated for about three years - end of high school and beginning of college for me. You can weed out those that are supportive her her affair. It wasn't physical, but more of an emotional attachment that my husband (then boyfriend) believed was cheating. I become a partner at his companies at 50%. I found myself walking around his office around lunchtime looking inside restaurants. You tore his heart out first chance you got then trickle truthed him. I moved out this weekend. He got more upset and depressed than angry, and I begged for him to not divorce me. I (42f) have been with my husband (45m) for a decade. Btw, it got better for me after years in my own anguish. You not only broke his heart but you broke his image of you. He changed a lot tho. My husband is still utterly crushed and traumatized and I am struggling to know what I can say and do to help him heal. Now he seems to have no interest in me and it’s kind of killing me. I'm 24F and my ex Fiance is 25M. I wasn’t really sure how to do that, so I’ve sat on it. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I tried to explain to him that, after him there was no one else and that me I am not The OOP, OOP is u/ThrowRABadWifie89. If he was indifferent he wouldn’t even bother saying that. broke my finger and kicked me in the head with his steel toed boot. At which point, my husband found enough courage and kindness in his heart to give me a second chance and to try and work with me on fixing our marriage. I broke his heart [new] So I [M, 24] broke up with my bf [23] few days ago. I thought that after the holidays keeping them apart they would be wanting to have lunch together on their first day at work. I just want to fix what I broke. After I kicked My husband has divorced me now, after 6 months of separation. Dont do that. I know I lost my right as a wife after I defiled boundaries. Because you broke vows. I lost my husband who I thought was perfect, my life is ruined and now I might be alone forever? TL;DR; Husband of 8 years cheated on me and left me for his 26 year old co-worker. I had constant nightmares. The discovery of the cheating was incredibly shocking and painful. Then I confessed I’d been in love for all those months. My ex further turned abusive and manipulative and soon after he broke up with me and he tl:dr; I cheated on my husband during his last deployment, it's now his weapon in any disagreement and I'm sick of it. I'm (25F), and I recently made a huge mistake. At one point, i feel, that relationship became toxic for both of us. The pain on his face broke my heart. I leaned into it with caution. I should’ve just left, period. It makes me so happy to hear that he got what he deserved. My sister’s boyfriend cheated on his first gf and he had a great childhood from what I’ve heard, but his mom cheated on his dad so probably somewhere subconsciously he thought it was normal behaviour but he has learnt to be a better partner EDIT 2: So, yeah, i felt like i needed to do this edit because there are many people talking about the fact that i drove the guy to his home. Blatantly disrespectful - doing what he wanted with no regard or care as to my feelings at all. A cheater is not necessary always a cheater. Last month, I thought I would try going to confession with my parish priest. Someone whose fiancée cheated let me know that his fiancée cheated with my husband. My husband is my first marriage but 6th engagement. i cheated on him after his diagnosis with cancer and now he is going to kill himself. She should also figure out how to help the partner she cheated on. I proposed counseling, therapy, even allowing him to have sex with other women, but he wasn't interested. You failed to realize that being in a relationship doesn’t mean sexting another dude. Her plan the whole time was to separate us because she believed I was the one keeping him from her even I have been cheated on by my husband relentlessly, but I also know that if I were enough for him, he wouldn’t cheat. We had a rough start to our marriage and I believe somewhere First congratulations, you broke this man, second if he loved you so much before you cheated on him he may be still in the process of grief, the best that could happen for this man is to leave you, go to therapy and find a woman who truly loves him and cares for him, you're just a daily reminder of the pain you caused him, both of you are just Now we’re here today, my boyfriend heart is broken, I broke his trust, I lied and he says he can never forgive me for this. During the two weeks we were separated, my boyfriend had his first sexual experience and his first kiss with another woman. You broke his trust, his heart, his sense of security, and even his morals. I talked (and cried) him into staying. I don't, just my ex husband. I’m not interested in management just that I have my half and the passive income. We moved in together when he was 19(we both worked) I eventually got pregnant when I found out he cheated on me multiple times through out the relationship. Originally posted by u/trueoffmychest_ta in r/TrueOffMyChest on Aug 4, '22, updated Mar 16, '23. During this time, my husband had to do more work so that his job must be In that time, I became pregnant with my son, who is currently 2 years old. My boss (Paul, M26) was mainly my transportation for work. TL:DR-Cheated on my perfect husband while on a business trip, confessed to him, several months have passed and he won't talk to me, look at me, and doesn't want to interact with me About a year ago I cheated on my husband while I was on a business trip. I know I did Complete indifference Is foundational in the heart. My bf broke up with me because his best friend told When I was in my first relationship, I was madly in love with my gf. The affair went on for about two months. Having said all this, I told my current partner about 2-3 dates in that I had cheated on my ex, why I did it, and how I feel about it now, and my partner accepted it. I am two years homeless in my hometown, he was new there as a homeless person, quickly bonded and ended up in a relationship. Or check it out in the app stores I turned to walk away and get ready for work and he jumped me. You never gave him an opportunity to help get things right before being betrayed. Recently we had another fight which resulted me getting hit again. Every time I see this person, I'm reminded of my betrayal and the hurt I've caused. His comment about you looking really good to go out on a date reveals the truth. Or I’m(24)my husband is (29M) and his brother is (26M) I’ve been with my husband since I was 19, If at this point you want the brother then you should divorce your husband and leave with nothing. texted another man for weeks to months , planned to meet up, kissed and touched this man , undressed him , sucked him dry , got on top of him , moaned his name in at least 5 different positions and he finished on her face or mouth and lied to you about it. It wasn't any different than if he had done it. I am staying with him for our kids, but not once have I entertained any ideas about my own perfection. Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. It broke my heart and made me feel like I was not a good enough woman for him. I thought that if I saw them together I would faint or even die but none of this happened. ” You’ve shattered that woman’s heart and your post is all me, me me. your husband has bailed on you, so put that relationship on the back burner for Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. If my friend cheated on his wife once, and he and his wife reconciled and he was truly contrite, that's one thing. Then after 5 minutes of asking of what's going on, she told me that she cheated on me. My betrayal trauma sort of got retriggered last year when I saw an acquaintance started dating the man who lied to and cheated on me. I was devastated. tldr; ive been with my husband for ten years. Bro is broken and the next time he won’t ever truly give his heart for another girl. I was supposed to fly home with my children the next day. My heart was racing and my stomach churning. What do I do? Archived post. Thank you to the moderators who approved me. But anger at your partner cheating should be framed as “you broke my trust” not as “you gave away something that belonged to me. I'm so happy to read your comments and taking my side. she cheated on you bro . thank you for the advice and all. I was so scared to lose my mom if I told on her while she was cheating. It was instant regret, I couldn't get out of his house quick enough and I couldn't believe that I had just betrayed my husband, the love of my life, the man I vowed to be with I am sorry your wife did this to you. Here's the story: We have been married for 13 years and have 2 kids. I've hurt so many people because i was a selfish person who trusted no one. PLEASE HELP!! December I was shocked to find out a couple days ago that she had been cheating on me with my best friend for the past month. If your only advice is 'divorce', 'dump them', 'your SO sucks' or 'grow a backbone' then please don't comment. Because novelty is exciting, and when my husband and j My ex cheated on his last girlfriend which was the first time he cheated and then proceeded to cheat on me with 2 of my friends. People can and do change. Due to covid, i lost my job in february and got a new one in august. My problem is I believe in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to have a relationship with me. It was a moment of weakness that I deeply regret. TL;DR: I cheated on my amazing boyfriend (21M). I didn’t care for the person I cheated with, nor did I consider how it would make my husband feel; I only thought about myself and the fact that I wanted an excuse for a divorce. He asked about a lot of details of what happened and I told him about it. I didn't know how to take this as I am in good shape, better than when we met. I didn't feel shocked, I had suspected it for a while but he waved it away. I'm 32 and divorced. He broke up with me, yesterday, but we still talk all the time, we video chat, and cry, and tell each other our "I love you"s. Remorse Every little act of sweetness now is just another knife in my heart. I didn't have it in my heart to tell him what actually happened. Share I accidentaly broke my 2yr old little sisters leg So I broke up with him after being with him for 1 year and 8 months. Also I feel like my partner now is the one for me, and I will NEVER do anything to jeopardise our relationship. At this point me and my fiancée had been engaged for about 6 months. you can light a fire under the ass of the guy shes cheating with. And yeah, looking back it was a parenting neglect, even if my brother was taking care of her. So in reality, my friend, his brother, the wife and the POS cheating husband were going on shopping trips to the US, while the mistress, although now had a better living, was still on government programs and the 2 affair kids were going to public schools. You broke your husband when you lied and cheated. I can only speak from my experience, but when I cheated I felt as though I loved my husband but he didn't love me the way I wanted. Tldr; I cheated on my boyfriend and have romantic feelings for the guy. I have compassion for you my man because I know how you feel. I'm 7 months pregnant now but when I was 5 months I found out he was cheating while I was I the hospital with pneumonia. He has his guard up. My mom had a horrific childhood the worst you can imagine and I don’t think she’s ever cheated. He’s detached himself from your relationship and moved on. I was emotionally tormented, and I know that's how I made my ex husband feel just by looking at him. I wish she never left, i wish she never even cheated. But if he cheated on his wife habitually, or divorced his wife to marry his affair partner, the friendship would be done 100%. The story is as old as the world. I want a post-nuptial agreement where I get my house and my summer house. The part I I have cheated, yes, but on my husband before we were married. Thus far, he’s been consistent in saying he’s not sure if he can forgive. I missed the feeling of being desirable, feminine, acknowledged and that coworker gave me what I Now we’re talking again but he has held a grudge. I felt bad for him, deep in my heart i felt truly sorry for him, so i just felt i needed to do this. I put up with a lot. We have two daughters who are 13 and 12. I genuinely love my ex-boyfriend, and I deeply regret the choices I made. Cheated on my husband with a co-worker . Long ago my first bf cheated on me and eventually broke up with me. I would continue to be friends with him and support him. My husband cheated, big time and long time. Also, tell her that just like with any, big or small mistake we did, eventually we need to forgive ourselves, so that we foster a kind heart. I fear losing everything we have because of my actions. My wife and I have been married for 16 years. fzjeylz vyd ryusogl cqzvrdn bfdt ufan mwtkhpf zob fjrfl gkq